Relationships are the perfect place for individuals to grow and learn new skills that will enhance their lives. Couples often get stuck in patterns of relating that undermine the building of intimacy and connection. The result is that each partner feels alone and powerless in the relationship. Couples therapy can help identify stumbling blocks, break through resistance to change and build on current strengths.
In relationships, we each want the opportunity to express ourselves and feel that we are heard and understood. When partners feel “known in their hearts”, the couple experiences a freedom, which enhances every aspect of the relationship. At this point, trust, loyalty, commitment and love can flourish.
Couples start out with hope, acceptance, belonging, deep passion and shared dreams of a lasting bond. Over time, these qualities can collide with the realities of life. When needs are not met, anger and resentment often divide the couple. Feelings of judgment overshadow acceptance and loneliness erodes the sense of “togetherness”.
Struggling couples often avoid confronting the issues that they fear will separate them. Yet, it is these same issues that reveal the depth of your commitment and connection to each other. If your relationship is struggling, you can learn to turn the conflicts that threaten to distance into the bonds that most connect. In working with couples, I focus on what is happening in the moment. Areas of conflict and disagreement are used as entry points into conversations that expand the relationship, increase empathy, compassion and provide increased intimacy. By identifying shared values, couples can learn new skills to navigate through conflict.
Lind’s extensive experience in working with addictions, mood disorders, chronic illness, grief and bereavement, augments her effectiveness with couples struggling with more complex situations.
‘”Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response is our growth and freedom.”
– Victor Frankl
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