THE GIFTS OF DOODLING
Doodling can actually change one’s state of mind. This calming activity can reduce stress, enhance your ability to concentrate and help with memory.
Finding Balance: Closeness and Separateness
“Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between souls.” Kahlil Gibran [...]
PERFECTIONISM, A GIFT OR A CURSE?
Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life. – Anne Lamott Ever wonder why some people, no matter how well they do in life, (job, school, relationships, financial, friendships), they always feel anxious and on the brink of not feeling “good enough”? Perfectionism [...]
The Trauma of Betrayal
Infidelity fractures the very foundation of a marriage. The discovery of a partner’s betrayal and infidelity is devastating because it shatters basic assumptions about the security we expect in committed relationships.The disorienting after effects of this trauma of betrayal resemble the psychic disorientation and confusion that we see in victims of earthquakes or other [...]
ASKING FOR HELP
MAYBE IT'S TIME TO ASK FOR HELP "When you ask someone for help, you aren't putting them out, you are pulling them up. [...]
Unlocking Intimacy-Assumptions in Relationships
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.” ― Isaac Asimov When we assume something about a situation, we are working with only a portion of the puzzle pieces to the situation. The gaps in the puzzle get filled in [...]
LONELINESS TO CONNECTION
We all yearn for closeness...to connect Frieda Fromm-Reichmann describes loneliness as “the want of intimacy”. Loneliness is often is associated with a feeling of abandonment; that that painful, scary feeling, which most all of us have experienced at some point. Whenever we are [...]
Sibling Grief: Loss of an Adult Sibling
I have experienced the sudden loss two adult siblings. Both my brother and sister were younger than me. These profound losses have impacted my life on every level. I had no place to put these losses in my life repertoire. Losing a younger sibling is out of the natural order things. We [...]
Intuition or Analysis…Knowing without knowing
There is a voice that doesn’t have words. Listen. -Rumi “The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it [...]
MARRIAGE FRIENDLY THERAPY
What is Marriage Friendly therapy and how does it differ from other couples therapy? Marriage Friendly therapists share the values of supporting the marriage and the couple’s original commitment to marriage.The Marriage Friendly therapist views preserving the marriage as the ideal goal, differing from the approach of some therapists hold a “neutral” [...]