Finding Balance: Closeness and Separateness
“Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between souls.” Kahlil Gibran [...]
The Trauma of Betrayal
Infidelity fractures the very foundation of a marriage. The discovery of a partner’s betrayal and infidelity is devastating because it shatters basic assumptions about the security we expect in committed relationships.The disorienting after effects of this trauma of betrayal resemble the psychic disorientation and confusion that we see in victims of earthquakes or other [...]
Unlocking Intimacy-Assumptions in Relationships
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.” ― Isaac Asimov When we assume something about a situation, we are working with only a portion of the puzzle pieces to the situation. The gaps in the puzzle get filled in [...]
LONELINESS TO CONNECTION
We all yearn for closeness...to connect Frieda Fromm-Reichmann describes loneliness as “the want of intimacy”. Loneliness is often is associated with a feeling of abandonment; that that painful, scary feeling, which most all of us have experienced at some point. Whenever we are [...]