In personal relationships, trust is the glue that holds everything together. It is what allows individuals to be vulnerable, knowing that they won’t be betrayed or taken advantage of. Without trust, relationships stagnate; individuals detach which causes distance; communication breaks down; and bonds weaken.

Trust is the confidence we place in others based on their actions, integrity, and consistency. When someone is truthful and careful with our inner most self at the same time, deeper levels of intimacy are realized between a couple.

Trust in a romantic relationship goes beyond mere fidelity; it encompasses emotional openness, vulnerability, and the assurance that one’s partner has your best interests at heart. It’s the belief that you can rely on your partner, confide in them without fear of judgment and weather life’s storms together as a united front.

It is helpful to remember is that trust is an ongoing

exchange between people and is not static.

Trust can be earned, can be lost, and it can be regained.


Transparency is crucial to having a trusting relationship. This type of honesty is not possible without sharing some of your innermost thoughts and feelings. Relational transparency doesn’t mean operating without a “filter.” It is not saying whatever comes to your mind in its rawest form for the sake of “honesty.” It takes a lot of practice to differentiate anger, fear, judgment and criticism from honesty. How you frame what you share matters. Couples therapy can help couples develop the wisdom to know which thoughts to share and which ones not to.

The Benefits of Couples Therapy

Couples therapy can provide a se, structured environment where couples can explore their relationship dynamics, uncover underlying issues, and learn essential skills to foster trust and intimacy. When two people really commit to work together in couples therapy they often find that they are finally able to be themselves, able to speak of their worst fears, deepest concerns and most nagging doubts in a safe space. People are surprised that when they learn how to do this well and face their fears in this way, their partner loves them more for it and that they tend to move in closer rather than run away. Couples therapy can help build trust by allowing:

  • Safe Space for Communication: Couples therapy offers a neutral and non-judgmental space where both partners can express their thoughts, feelings, and concerns openly. Therapists facilitate constructive communication, ensuring that each partner feels heard and understood.
  • Unpacking Past Wounds: Past hurts and traumas can erode trust in a relationship. Through therapy, couples can delve into these sensitive areas, gaining insight into how past experiences may be impacting their present relationship. By acknowledging and addressing these wounds, couples can begin the healing process and rebuild trust.
  • Developing Empathy and Understanding: Couples therapy helps partners develop empathy and understanding for each other’s perspectives. As they learn to see the world through their partner’s eyes, they gain a deeper appreciation for their feelings and experiences, fostering trust and connection.
  • Learning Effective Communication Skills: Effective communication is essential for building trust in any relationship. Couples therapy equips partners with practical communication tools, such as active listening, assertive expression, and conflict resolution techniques. These skills enable couples to navigate challenges more effectively and build trust through honest and respectful dialogue.
  • Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal: Infidelity, breaches of trust, or other betrayals can shake the foundation of a relationship. Couples therapy provides a structured framework for addressing these issues, facilitating honest conversations about the betrayal, exploring underlying causes, and establishing a roadmap for rebuilding trust.      
  • Creating Shared Goals and Values: Trust flourishes when partners share common goals, values, and aspirations. Couples therapy helps couples align their visions for the future, identify shared values, and cultivate a sense of partnership and mutual support.

Lind Butler, MEd, LPC has been doing extensive work with couples for the past 40 years. She is a member of the National Registry of Marriage Friendly Therapists. Her expertise can help provide powerful tools for nurturing trust, fostering growth, and building a foundation of love and resilience that can withstand the tests of time. By committing to the journey of  couples therapy, couples can forge a bond that is grounded in trust, understanding, and unwavering support.