Psychotherapist Houston

She Let Go – A Poem by Safire Rose

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear.  She let go of the judgments.  She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.  She let go of the committee of indecision within her.  She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go.  She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go.  She let go of all of the memories that held her back.  She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.  She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.

She didn’t analyze whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.

No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.

Have you noticed that things go much more smoothly when we give up control—when we allow them to happen instead of making them happen.

  1. We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we don’t. In other words, control is rooted in fear.
  1. Control is also a result of being attached to a specific outcome—an outcome we’re sure is best for us, as if we always know what’s best. When we trust that we’re okay no matter what circumstances come our way, we don’t need to micro-manage things. We let go. And we open ourselves to all sorts of possibilities that aren’t there when we’re attached to one “right” path.
  1. The energy of surrender accomplishes much more than the energy of control. In control mode, our vision gets narrow and focused, the breath is shallow, adrenaline is pumping and  heart rate increases.

Psychotherapist Houston –

In control mode, the mind shifts from topic to topic and from past to future very quickly, with little concentration, poor memory, and almost no present-moment awareness. In surrender mode, we are calm, peaceful. Breathing deeply, present in the moment. Seeing clearly and our vision extends out, allowing us to see the bigger picture.  So the great irony is that attempting to control things actually feels less in control. When holding on and stressing over details, we are in our own way.